ATTENTION PARENTS AND FUTURE PARENTS! Homebirth advocates and homebirth midwives do not want you to know about the incredible fear and horror you and your baby may feel during homebirth, or the soul crushing grief and guilt you may experience for the rest of your life because your baby was permanently injured or died, all because you believed the crap spewed forth on websites like Birth of a New Earth.
The following photos comes from Hurt by Homebirth, a website that exists for the sole purpose of allowing homebirth loss mothers to tell their stories.
I just want to say thank you for continuing to be a true advocate for women and babies…and fathers and siblings and grandparents and aunties and uncles. I am a labor and delivery nurse. I am not currently practicing (I’m choosing to stay home with my children because I have that luxury) but I will go back when it’s time. I too have entered into debates with the homebirthers on blogs and in face to face conversations. Even women I consider my friends, who are otherwise reasonable and stable women, refuse to hear the truth we are speaking. But we have to keep speaking. It is a matter of life and death. And thank you for giving these women a place to share their stories. Their babies do deserve to be remembered. And we do, like commenters have said before me, we do remember. I remember all of “my” babies who never had a chance to live. I remember the tears and moans of their mothers. I remember fixing up a body to look as in a deep slumber. I remember dropping everything and running to retrieve a baby so that mommy could hold him “one more time”. I remember sitting on the bed, holding and rocking mama while she soaks my shirt with her tears. I remember taking up a collection from the staff, running on my “break” to buy her a stuffed monkey. I remember telling her “All boys are monkeys and no mother should leave without something to hold.” I do remember. And I always will.
these natural “midwives” need to be put in Jail!!!
True. But there is also opinion based on recent experiences in the modern day. These are where Dr Tuteur is lacking since she has not been IN the current for almost 20years. She has information from the medical community at her fingertips, but so do I.
What do you think Dr. Amy has been doing the last 20 years? Sitting in her living room eating bon bons and watching soap operas? She may not be practicing medicine on a daily basis but, surely all her knowledge didn’t instantly leave her head upon retirement. I’m sure she still understands how to read scientific papers and evaluate new research. Having all the information at your fingertips does you no good if you can’t understand it or obstinately refuse to believe it. Please explain to all of us when during the last 20 years home birth was proved to be as safe as hospital birth. I for one won’t hold my breath while I wait.
Thank you for demonstrating the idiocy of the criticism of me. Which American professional medical organizations have changed their position on homebirth in the past 20 years? None, but I guess it is too much to expect logical thought from anyone who believes “trusting birth” is anything other than nonsense.
So it’s fine to have an opinion if you approve of it, otherwise it’s somehow “deceitful” to express an opinion?
I do live in the real world and I’m also birthing in the real world. I also know of the ads you speak of. They annoy the living crap out of me. Mostly because they are either for malpractice or for the recall of a product or procedure that wasn’t tested as thoroughly as they had thought.
It’s not that homebirth midwives aren’t being held accountable. There just isn’t as high of a rate of suing as their is in the medical world. Everyone has a horrible medical story of some sort due to a recall or having something left in them or of losing a family member.
But the trouble is, that not only are midwives just moving to another state to start over again, Doctors are too. There isn’t a solid system set up to stop them from transferring to a different hospital unless there is specific paperwork filled out, inquiries made etc. This is part of the reason our Pope just stepped down. Ministers who were doing harm were just moved around in the hopes that it would get better. But it didn’t, it just created more trouble elsewhere.
OF COURSE there are not the same number of lawsuits against midwifery. Lay midwives are not regulated and don’t carry malpractice insurance, so there is nothing to sue FOR. It is not a measure of whether or not the midwife is competent.
Also, I, for one, have no horrible medical stories.