Ten lies my natural childbirth educator told me

Several people have expressed reluctance to join a Facebook group entitled Fed up with natural childbirth on the grounds that they have no objection to choosing unmedicated birth, or more generally, no objection to women making whatever choices they prefer. But natural childbirth is not simply a specific set of choices; it’s a philosophy that idealizes a specific set of choices and makes value judgments about women who choose differently. Moreover, it is a philosophy that rests on specific empirical claims; claims that are disingenuous, untrue, or occasionally outright lies.

Below is a list of the most popular NCB falsehoods and lies, the ones that are promulgated by natural childbirth celebrities and organizations, and faithfully transmitted even by purportedly neutral childbirth educators:

#1. Childbirth is inherently safe.

This is an outright lie. Childbirth is inherently dangerous. Childbirth is and has always been, in every time, place and culture, a leading cause of death of young women. For babies, the day of birth is the single most dangerous day of the entire 18 years of childhood.

This lie is a bedrock assumption of natural childbirth philosophy. On this false belief that childbirth in nature is inherently safe rests the claim anything that modifies childbirth must be dangerous or not as good as childbirth in nature.

#2. Fear causes the pain of childbirth.

This stems from a spectacularly racist lie. Grantly Dick-Read, the father of the NCB movement, was a eugenicist whose primary goal was to prevent “race suicide” by encouraging white women of the better classes to have more children. He claimed that primitive (i.e. Black) did not have pain in labor, in keeping with the pervasive racist beliefs of the age that Black women were hypersexualized, and gave birth without pain because they did not fear their natural role. Grantly Dick-Read based his entire philosophy on this lie, hence the title of his book, Childbirth Without Fear.

Contemporary natural childbirth advocates no longer make the absurd racist claims, but they are stuck on the notion that the pain of childbirth is inherently controllable by the mind, and that the mind can therefore be trained to minimize and manage the pain.

#3. Labor is not inherently painful.

This bizarre claim rests on a false assumption that labor pain is qualitatively different than other forms of pain. It’s not. It is exactly like any other form of pain, is initially received by the same types of neurons, passes exactly the same way up the spinal cord to the brain, and is perceived by the brain in exactly the same way as any other form of pain.

#4. Epidurals are dangerous and unnecessary

NCB advocates insist that epidurals are unnecessary because the pain of labor should be managed in other ways, or better yet, should be endured. The claim is both philosophical and empirical. The philosophical claim rests on the naturalistic fallacy and belief in essentialism. The naturalistic fallacy is the claim that because something is a certain way in nature, it ought to be that way all the time. Essentialism is the belief that women share an essential nature and are “empowered” by expressing that nature.

NCB also insist that epidurals are “dangerous” to both baby and mother. That’s nothing more than a lie, created by grossly inflating the purported risks of epidurals.

#5. Interventions are “bad.”

Obviously, if you operate under the mistaken belief that childbirth is inherently safe, it is impossible to recognize the benefits of interventions. However, if you recognize reality, that childbirth is inherently dangerous, interventions represent nothing more than preventive medicine. Knowing that complications are common and often preventable, it follows quite logically that pregnant women should be monitored for a variety of complications so they can be prevented, or treated early when there is the greatest chance of successful treatment.

Since NCB advocates insist that interventions are generally worthless, they are forced into the bizarre position of arguing that medical professionals deliberately offer worthless practices and technology because they are benefiting financially.

#6. Inductions are dangerous and unnecessary.

This lie was adopted by NCB advocates only recently. It flows inevitably from two other mistaken beliefs, the belief that childbirth is inherently safe and the belief that since there are no inductions in nature, there must be no need for inductions.

NCB advocates bemoan the rising induction rate while conveniently ignoring the fact that the stillbirth rate has dropped as a result.

#7 Cesareans are almost always unnecessary.

Again, this is nothing more than an empirical lie. It is well known that in countries where the C-section rate is under 5%, mortality rates are appalling. Indeed, in countries that have C-section rates less than 10%, mortality rates are still extraordinarily high. At a minimum, then 1 in 10 women derive major benefit from a C-section. That is hardly a procedure that is unnecessary.

#9. Vaginal birth is inherently superior

This is a philosophical claim that rests on the naturalistic fallacy. Since everything that is natural is “better” and vaginal birth is natural, it must be “better.” Most women consider that a birth that results in a live baby and live mother is inherently superior, and for a significant proportion of women, that birth is a C-section.

#10. Women who love their babies choose NCB

This is the most hateful claim, but a claim that flows inevitably from all the other lies. When you erroneously believe that natural is inherently safe and that everything else is inherently dangerous, interventions wrongly take on the specter of unnecessary risks. When you wrongly believe that epidurals are dangerous, opting to treat your own pain implies that you value your feelings over the risks to your baby.

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Natural childbirth advocates will be the first to tell you that NCB is not merely a vaginal birth without pain medication. It is a belief system that necessitates choosing vaginal birth without pain medication and without interventions of any kind. As we have seen, it is based on a variety of philosophical and empirical claims that range from false to outright lies. Natural childbirth explicitly idealizes certain childbirth choices and derides others. More importantly, it asserts that women who make those idealized choices are better women and better mothers than everyone else. And that’s why I’m fed up with natural childbirth.

  • Guesteleh

    Also, where are all of these parachuting posters coming from? Who linked to Amy?

  • Guesteleh

    If “Anna” is a real PhD or a criminal psych, I will eat my placenta.

    • KarenJJ

      She could certainly cite her references for starters.

  • Anna

    Understand that I do not consider myself superior having gone through two natural labors. I do not think any less of women who has opted to go with an epidural, and especially not those who have had no choice but to have a C-section. I am only having a hard time understanding the adamant nature of this article. That is all.

    • Bombshellrisa

      “Understand that I do not consider myself superior having gone through two natural labors” Good, you and Dr Amy both.

    • Box of Salt

      Sorry, Anna: “Understand that I do not consider myself superior having gone through two natural labors.”

      You had already posted “We can’t all be that awesome…”

      Now you are trying to back peddle. It’s not working.

    • Wren

      You don’t think any less of them but you believe they ” will never have that bond with their children”.
      Hahahahaha
      At least *try* to keep your story straight from one post to the next please.

    • KarenJJ

      ” I am only having a hard time understanding the adamant nature of this article. That is all.”

      Try reading the Hurt by Homebirth blog and some more of this blog and then think about what women are being told by some Childbirth Educators. Try doing this with an open mind to alternative viewpoints to your own and with empathy for the parents who felt misled and duped by convincing sounding “professionals”.

      Then you might be able to come to some understanding. Many people here have had natural childbirths and people here are of different sexual orientation. Try considering your insults and stick to the arguments and not the people.’

      And have fun. This is a great site if you like to discuss and debate. We can be a bit blunt but we do like a good argument if you’ve got one.

  • Anna

    You sound like a bitter person who couldn’t handle natural childbirth. It’s ok. We can’t all be that awesome…

    • Amy Tuteur, MD

      Wrong.

      And you sound like a person who has so few accomplishments that you’d like to pretend that unmedicated vaginal birth is some sort of achievement. Sorry, but it isn’t.

      • Anna

        I have many accomplishments in life. I have my PhD in Psychology and actually use it in a lucrative aspect of the field. While I do not condone studies on animals, I understand they must be done, and one particular study that caught my interest was one done on mice and labor. It was shown that the mice that had given birth through a C-section, or with the assistance of an epidural, did not bond with their young as the ones who gave birth naturally did. I feel sorry for the women who will never have that bond with their children.

        Telling women that natural labor is not the route to go is like telling our youth that they should just text their friends on their iPhones instead of picking up the phone and calling them. Modern technology is ruining us, and you’re a fool for falling for it.

        I have read so many articles of various arguments people make that I have found to be a waste of time, but never have I seen somebody concluding that natural childbirth is not “good for you”. It’s absurd. I declare you bored and bitter.

        P.S. I still have two years until I reach 30, and I feel this gives me a reason to still act like somewhat of a child. That being said, have you ever even given birth, let alone have had a penis inside of you? Methinks you don’t swing that way…

        • Amazed

          I knew I had a reason to think that psychologists face far more psychological problems that those they supposedly counsel.

          My brother still has 3 years until he reaches 30 and believe me, he is a man. I would guess that a 28 year old would want to be a woman. Well, to each her own.

          • Anna

            I’m not a Psychologist. Not the type that you’re thinking, anyway. I don’t see patients. I’m in Criminal Psychology.

          • Amazed

            Good. I was already fearing for anyone being counseled by a grown-up woman who likes to be a child and lacks in reading and comprehension skills. Or do you suffer from selective blindness? Maybe that was the reason you were unable to read the little black lines in the left?

          • realityycheque

            I’m a similar age to the commenter (younger, in fact) and I have absolutely no desire to act like “somewhat of a child” and certainly wouldn’t try to use my age as an excuse to do so.

            I’m an adult. I’m a parent. My childhood and teenage years are over, period. I let my hair down from time to time just like everyone else, but there comes a point in time when you need to get your shit together and take responsibility for your actions.

          • Box of Salt

            “take responsibility for your actions”
            And your words.

        • Amy Tuteur, MD

          “one particular study that caught my interest was one done on mice and labor. It was shown that the mice that had given birth through a C-section, or with the assistance of an epidural, did not bond with their young as the ones who gave birth naturally did.”

          Really? What study would that be?

        • Box of Salt

          Anna, I feel sorry for someone who can’t tell the difference between a human woman and a mouse, and who thinks it’s clever to use sexuality as an insult.

          • Anna

            Mice are intelligent creatures. Hence why most studies to reflect human nature is done on them.

          • Squillo

            Why would one not conduct a retrospective study on humans to look at bonding?

          • Box of Salt

            Squillo, you mean like this one?
            http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00737-010-0169-z
            Title: “The experience of labor, maternal perception of the infant, and the mother’s postpartum mood in a low-risk community cohort”

            And, no, I didn’t buy the article, so I am guilty of posting an abstract of something I haven’t read.

            I’d be interested in how many of the ceseareans were elective vs emergency, and how that affects the issue – especially as the assisted vaginal deliveries also reported higher depression rates than the vaginals (but not interested enough to spend $40).

          • Squillo

            Bingo. And I’ll bet it’s not the only human study. The abstract is a bit of a disaster, though, isn’t it?

          • Box of Salt

            Like the laundry list of confounders?

            I wish I still had easy access to a good library.

          • realityycheque

            Wow… you have a PhD and you actually believe “intelligence” is the reason why mice are so frequently used in studies. How embarrassing for you.

          • AmyM

            Yeah, I work with mice every day. They have yet to show me shining examples of their intellect. For example, they have failed to invent anything, like art, and they have several materials available in their cages with which to do so. And plenty of time, as they are fed, and do not need to expend energy on looking for food.

          • auntbea

            I had a pet rat who used to run all over the house picking up stray bits of things and collect them in a pile. I suppose it could have been a nest, but it might also have been sculpture!

        • Wren

          A teeny tiny bit of research would answer your question in the PS. Methinks you cannot be bothered to support a single opinion you hold.

          If you actually care about this topic, plenty of women, myself included, have had children in different ways and managed to bond with them all. Shocking as this may be to you, I am just as bonded to my C-section delivered first child as I am to my epidural-free VBAC delivered second child.
          Of course, I like texting and enjoy modern technology, like the internet, rather than believing it is ruining us.

        • Squillo

          Strawmen, ad homs, and irrelevancies, oh my!

          • realityycheque

            Don’t forget Appeal to Authority! This is Logical Fallacy Bingo! Wondering if it’s too early to do shots…

        • Ann

          This comment is so offensive that methinks you are a troll. What a horrible ad hominem attack implying that it is somehow shamefull to be childless or a lesbian. Your PhD clearly hasn’t taught you to refrain from homophobia or bigotry. And FYI: Dr Amy is a married heterosexual mother of 4. Not that it should have any bearing on the validity of her opinions. A womans worth is determined by her character, not by what goes in or out of her vagina, as you seem to believe.
          About that study you are citing: please do provide us with a reference and additional evidence to support your theory that it can be extrapolated to humans.

  • Emlemur

    These statements are lies. However, my natural childbirth instructor never said these things, so I feel this argument is a straw man. Here is what she said instead: 1) childbirth is natural, but sometimes things go wrong. This is where modern medicine shines. 2) You will probably experience both fear and pain in childbirth. Here are some techniques to help you cope. 3) see #2. 4) All forms of medical pain relief disturb the natural hormones of childbirth and all of them can have side effects. Here is information on common side effects. Here are situations where you might want/need to use them. 5) It’s best if labor can start on its own, but sometimes there is a situation that prompts an induction. Because of side effects, an induction solely for convenience’s sake should be avoided. 6) C-sections are needed in some situations. Interventions increase the likelihood that a c-section will be needed where it might not have been before. If you need a c-section, get one. Be aware that c-section increases the number of potential complications in future pregnancies and gives you a longer recovery period. 7) Vaginal birth is safer when everything is going well. Here are some exercises and meal plans that can make your pregnancy lower-risk so you have a better chance of everything going well. 8) Women who love their babies take care of themselves during pregnancy and gather all the information and help they can regarding both birth and child care.

    I’m doing a drug-free childbirth in a hospital with a family physician and a doula attending (as well as all the wonderful l&d nurses). If everything goes according to nature’s plan, I truly feel that I will have minimized my risks for unwanted side effects. If something goes wrong (because there is real danger in childbirth), I have medical professionals and an OR just yards away. I have no illusions that this will be painless. Nor do I think that any intervention might hurt my child. I am just doing all I can to minimize risks.

    • Amy Tuteur, MD

      “All forms of medical pain relief disturb the natural hormones of childbirth”

      But that’s a lie, too.

      ” Vaginal birth is safer when everything is going well.”

      That’s not true. C-section is almost always safer for the baby.

      “Women who love their babies take care of themselves during pregnancy and gather all the information and help they can regarding both birth and child care.”

      That’s BS. Gathering information has nothing to do with anything. And there are plenty of women who love their babies but can’t or don’t know how to take care of themselves.

      • Emlemur

        Is it not true that medications interfere with birth hormones/processes? All the studies I have read have said that they do to some extent.

        It is true that I have read that c-section is safer for the first baby than vaginal birth (provided it is performed when the baby is fully mature). However, it increases the risks for complications with subsequent pregnancies. I have also read that c-section increases the risk of maternal death over vaginal birth.

        Yes, women who don’t know how to take care of themselves love their babies. It would be best to say ‘women who love their babies do the best they can/know how to.’ But that’s not what my instructor said.