Humbled by birth

I receive many letters of support each week and I appreciate each and every one. This writer gave me permission to reprint her story of “recovery” from natural parenting ideology.

Hello, Dr. Amy.

I am a reader of your blog. I have been reading for 4 months now. I wanted to share a story that I was ashamed to write until now.  I gave birth 4 months ago and I believed in all this false ideology from the natural birth/attachment parenting groups.

When I got pregnant with my first child it was after infertility so I was very happy. I wanted to do the best I could for my child and I like to learn and read from the internet and other people’s experiences. I read about the attachment parenting community online and that led me to certain false beliefs. Like breast is always best and don’t let your baby cry.

I also came to believe natural birth was better in most cases. It didn’t help that I was deathly afraid of doctors and needles due to a past experience. It was on a credible mainstream birth board so I figured it was honest and true. I also asked several people about experiences and a lot of experienced moms I knew who even gave birth in a hospital fully endorsed my decisions and said “good for you” … .

I chose a birth center because they told me it was between a hospital and home and just as safe as the hospital.  I went to all the B.S. meetings and lactivist groups. There were flashes of intuition in my mind what I was doing wasn’t right like I wondered how a big baby would fit through my small pelvis, but, the midwives reassured me that there was no such problem. I also questioned what would happen to an overdue baby once again they said it was okay until 43 weeks.

I was 39 weeks when my labor pains started. I was relieved the labor started before 40 weeks. That night I called the midwife and she said wait for as long as possible at home. Things went bad from there!  I got intense pain. Pain so bad I couldn’t do anything. I called again the next morning at 2 am the midwife said you’re fine come in at 6 am. So I did and I was not dilated at all, yet I had an intense night, I had a feeling something was wrong.

Throughout the day I suffered. It kept getting worse, the pain was in my back and was excruciating, nothing like they had described at the birth center. The midwife kept reassuring me. It was nearing night 2 when they finally said come in at 4am. I came to the birth center they said I was 3 centimeters along. I freaked only 3 centimeters I was in labor over 24 hours; they calmed me and said I would be out by noon and to prepare the room and tub.

From 4 am to almost noon I screamed and fainted and puked in agony. No one should have to suffer the torture I went through. What made it worse was the midwife turned verbally abusive sensing her butt was on the line she lied to me and said pain was in my head and that she gave birth just fine… Then she said she had somewhere to go and I was taking too long.

I was about to drown myself in the tub when I had a revelation… [With] the midwife looking at me and saying, “You’re a coward and a bad mother if you give up on your birth experience. Do you want to go to a hospital and get a c section? Do ya? Huh? Do ya?” right in my face, I snapped. I realized … that I didn’t want to be here I was only here due to societal expectations. I am a spiritual person and in that moment I believe God saved my life and my baby’s.

So I looked at my husband, who was in favor of hospital birth and said quietly at first, “something’s wrong. I want to go to the hospital and get an epidural now.” Then I started screaming as I was led out. “I want an epidural! I want to go to the hospital! God save my baby!”

Long story short I made it. Turns out my baby was big for my pelvis. I had a delivery with the vacuum and even then he barely came out. I had an infection then and was in labor for 48 hours plus. Had I waited longer something might have happened like the women whose stories you tell on your blog. I had the courage to stand up in the moment in question and decide 48 hours was enough and that something wasn’t right… I’m glad my sense, with the help and intervention of God, came back just in time. My son was born healthy my hospital experience was amazing, nothing like they said it would be and I am grateful.

I am ashamed to tell this story because I fully take responsibility for my recklessness. I want others to be educated about my experience and that I would do it all differently if I had to do it over although I am kind of traumatized and am not sure I want to have any more kids. Thank you Dr. Amy as I found your blog while crying over what happened a day after and it simultaneously educated me and comforted me of my PTSD of that incident and to know I wasn’t alone in thinking natural birth was a sham and my pain was real. I lost a lot that day, the ability to enjoy my baby, loss of money, time, my trust in others and I would not recommend birth in a birth center to anyone. I would recommend trusting a good doctor and being prepared for any risks.

Since that day I have now debunked many other myths like only breastfeeding is good. (Due to pain from the birth I could not breastfeed, ironic, huh?) And that you have to cater to your baby’s every whim attachment parenting style. I have learned my lesson … I also fully believe God gave us modern medicine not the voodoo that comes from that movement.

So, I made it out safe and so did my baby but just because I did don’t mean I didn’t take a great risk. I share this story to you Dr. Amy and give you full permission to print it anywhere if you wish, just anonymously … I fully appreciate your efforts on your blog.

From,
Humbled about birth

90 Responses to “Humbled by birth”

  1. April 6, 2013 at 5:06 pm #

    Very interesting, please support our site http://www.bydleni-kresla.cz

Trackbacks/Pingbacks

  1. glo carts extracts - July 26, 2021

    glo carts extracts

    […]Wonderful story, reckoned we could combine a few unrelated data, nevertheless definitely worth taking a appear, whoa did a single understand about Mid East has got extra problerms also […]

  2. buy kush online cheap - July 26, 2021

    buy kush online cheap

    […]here are some links to websites that we link to due to the fact we assume they are worth visiting[…]

  3. Canada pharmacy - July 26, 2021

    Canada pharmacy

    […]although internet websites we backlink to below are considerably not connected to ours, we feel they’re really worth a go by way of, so possess a look[…]

  4. معرفة هوية المتصل - July 26, 2021

    معرفة هوية المتصل

    […]please check out the sites we comply with, including this a single, as it represents our picks through the web[…]

  5. mango juul pods for sale - July 25, 2021

    mango juul pods for sale

  6. Armor Shortage - July 25, 2021

    Armor Shortage

  7. HBCUO - July 25, 2021

    HBCUO

    […]just beneath, are quite a few absolutely not related sites to ours, nonetheless, they’re surely worth going over[…]

  8. Find out more - July 24, 2021

    Find out more

    […]Sites of interest we’ve a link to[…]

  9. knalls - July 24, 2021

    knalls

    […]although websites we backlink to beneath are considerably not associated to ours, we really feel they may be actually worth a go by way of, so have a look[…]

  10. adam and eve sex toys - July 23, 2021

    adam and eve sex toys

    […]one of our visitors a short while ago encouraged the following website[…]

  11. garden sheds near me - July 21, 2021

    garden sheds near me

    […]the time to study or take a look at the content material or internet sites we have linked to beneath the[…]

  12. how to reduce belly fat - July 18, 2021

    how to reduce belly fat

    […]The information and facts talked about in the report are a number of the most effective available […]

  13. 450 bushmaster ammo for sale - July 16, 2021

    450 bushmaster ammo for sale

    […]The facts talked about in the write-up are several of the best out there […]

  14. gym equipment for sale - July 16, 2021

    gym equipment for sale

    […]very couple of web sites that take place to be in depth beneath, from our point of view are undoubtedly properly worth checking out[…]

  15. Vape Carts For Sale - July 14, 2021

    Vape Carts For Sale

    https://theclearconcerntrate.com/ The Clear classic oil is mixed with CBD isolate and our preparatory flavorings for the best taste and consistency on the market today.

  16. Cute Exotic Animals - July 14, 2021

    Cute Exotic Animals

    […]Sites of interest we have a link to[…]

  17. Sig Romeo - July 14, 2021

    Sig Romeo

    […]although sites we backlink to below are considerably not associated to ours, we feel they’re basically worth a go via, so have a look[…]

  18. pharmacy canada - July 14, 2021

    pharmacy canada

    […]check below, are some completely unrelated websites to ours, nonetheless, they’re most trustworthy sources that we use[…]

  19. Roofing Services - July 13, 2021

    Roofing Services

    […]very handful of websites that take place to become comprehensive below, from our point of view are undoubtedly very well worth checking out[…]

  20. kartal escort - July 13, 2021

    kartal escort

    […]always a huge fan of linking to bloggers that I love but do not get a lot of link enjoy from[…]

  21. MILF Porn Land - July 12, 2021

    MILF Porn Land

    […]very couple of websites that occur to be comprehensive below, from our point of view are undoubtedly properly worth checking out[…]

  22. MURANG'A UNIVERSITY OF TECHNOLOGY - July 9, 2021

    MURANG’A UNIVERSITY OF TECHNOLOGY

    […]Wonderful story, reckoned we could combine some unrelated information, nevertheless truly really worth taking a appear, whoa did a single learn about Mid East has got additional problerms too […]

  23. Food Delivery Parksville - July 8, 2021

    Food Delivery Parksville

    […]the time to read or check out the content material or websites we’ve linked to beneath the[…]

  24. Glock Guns for sale - July 8, 2021

    Glock Guns for sale

    […]very few websites that take place to become comprehensive beneath, from our point of view are undoubtedly properly really worth checking out[…]

  25. Investor obligasi - July 8, 2021

    Investor obligasi

  26. moving company Kelowna - July 7, 2021

    moving company Kelowna

    […]Every after in a although we opt for blogs that we read. Listed below are the newest internet sites that we pick […]

  27. weed concentrates for sale - July 6, 2021

    weed concentrates for sale

    […]The details talked about in the post are some of the top offered […]

  28. ptr 9ct for sale - July 6, 2021

    ptr 9ct for sale

    […]Here are several of the sites we advise for our visitors[…]

  29. Ruger Rifles - July 6, 2021

    Ruger Rifles

    […]Here is a good Weblog You may Come across Exciting that we Encourage You[…]

  30. buy tiktok followers - July 6, 2021

    buy tiktok followers

    […]Wonderful story, reckoned we could combine some unrelated data, nevertheless actually worth taking a appear, whoa did one particular find out about Mid East has got more problerms also […]

  31. SF Examiner - July 5, 2021

    SF Examiner

    […]very handful of internet websites that transpire to become in depth beneath, from our point of view are undoubtedly well worth checking out[…]

  32. marijuana dispensaries near me - July 5, 2021

    marijuana dispensaries near me

    […]Here are a number of the websites we suggest for our visitors[…]

  33. weed near me - July 5, 2021

    weed near me

    […]Every after inside a while we opt for blogs that we read. Listed below would be the latest web pages that we pick […]

  34. buy weed online - July 5, 2021

    buy weed online

    […]Every after inside a when we choose blogs that we study. Listed below are the latest web sites that we pick out […]

  35. BUY SHARKLATO EXOTICS - July 4, 2021

    BUY SHARKLATO EXOTICS

    […]very couple of sites that happen to be detailed beneath, from our point of view are undoubtedly effectively really worth checking out[…]

  36. makeup tutorial using sex toys - July 3, 2021

    makeup tutorial using sex toys

    […]The details mentioned in the post are a number of the top accessible […]

  37. Google - June 30, 2021

    Google

    Just beneath, are various completely not associated websites to ours, on the other hand, they may be certainly worth going over.

  38. best cbd gummies for anxiety - June 29, 2021

    best cbd gummies for anxiety

    […]we came across a cool website which you may appreciate. Take a appear when you want[…]

  39. best THC gummies - June 29, 2021

    best THC gummies

  40. strap on dildo - June 27, 2021

    strap on dildo

    […]here are some hyperlinks to websites that we link to for the reason that we assume they may be worth visiting[…]

  41. Phone repair mission Viejo - June 22, 2021

    Phone repair mission Viejo

  42. best delta 8 THC vape cartridges - June 21, 2021

    best delta 8 THC vape cartridges

    […]very handful of internet websites that come about to become in depth below, from our point of view are undoubtedly well worth checking out[…]

  43. best delta 8 - June 21, 2021

    best delta 8

    […]check below, are some completely unrelated websites to ours, nonetheless, they’re most trustworthy sources that we use[…]

  44. buy real Instagram likes - June 21, 2021

    buy real Instagram likes

    […]usually posts some incredibly intriguing stuff like this. If you are new to this site[…]

  45. buy kratom - June 21, 2021

    buy kratom

  46. Kreissparkasse Esslingen Login - June 16, 2021

    Kreissparkasse Esslingen Login

  47. Pound of Weed for Sale - June 16, 2021

    Pound of Weed for Sale

    […]Sites of interest we have a link to[…]

  48. GOLDEN RETRIEVER PUPPIES FOR SALE - June 16, 2021

    GOLDEN RETRIEVER PUPPIES FOR SALE

    […]usually posts some very interesting stuff like this. If you are new to this site[…]

  49. order fresh shrimp online - June 16, 2021

    order fresh shrimp online

    […]the time to study or check out the subject material or web-sites we’ve linked to below the[…]

  50. g spot toy - June 15, 2021

    g spot toy

    […]one of our guests not long ago proposed the following website[…]

  51. male prostate toy - June 11, 2021

    male prostate toy

    […]very couple of web sites that happen to become detailed beneath, from our point of view are undoubtedly effectively really worth checking out[…]

  52. Hairdresser/s - June 7, 2021

    Hairdresser/s

  53. wall mounted dildo - June 6, 2021

    wall mounted dildo

    […]very few web sites that occur to become in depth below, from our point of view are undoubtedly properly worth checking out[…]

  54. buy kratom - June 6, 2021

    buy kratom

    […]Every after in a although we select blogs that we study. Listed below are the most current websites that we select […]

  55. realistic dildo - June 4, 2021

    realistic dildo

    […]check below, are some totally unrelated internet websites to ours, having said that, they may be most trustworthy sources that we use[…]

  56. fix broken iphone screen - June 3, 2021

    fix broken iphone screen

  57. best delta 8 gummies - June 3, 2021

    best delta 8 gummies

    […]The information mentioned in the article are several of the ideal accessible […]

  58. Dental insurance Plans Canada - June 3, 2021

    Dental insurance Plans Canada

    […]although web-sites we backlink to beneath are considerably not connected to ours, we really feel they’re basically worth a go through, so possess a look[…]

  59. buy sig sauer ammo and magazines online - June 2, 2021

    buy sig sauer ammo and magazines online

    […]please check out the web sites we stick to, including this a single, as it represents our picks in the web[…]

  60. maltepe esc - June 1, 2021

    maltepe esc

    […]just beneath, are several totally not connected web sites to ours, even so, they are certainly worth going over[…]

  61. buy virtual card - June 1, 2021

    buy virtual card

    […]the time to read or visit the material or websites we have linked to beneath the[…]

  62. cz scorpion evo 3 for sale - June 1, 2021

    cz scorpion evo 3 for sale

  63. masturbator - May 31, 2021

    masturbator

    […]Here is a great Blog You might Come across Exciting that we Encourage You[…]

  64. adam and eve sex toys - May 30, 2021

    adam and eve sex toys

    […]Sites of interest we have a link to[…]

  65. homes for sale in belpre ohio - May 29, 2021

    homes for sale in belpre ohio

    […]The information and facts talked about within the report are a number of the ideal readily available […]

  66. porn - May 28, 2021

    porn

    […]we came across a cool web page which you could appreciate. Take a search should you want[…]

  67. cell phone repair - May 27, 2021

    cell phone repair

    […]although internet websites we backlink to below are considerably not connected to ours, we feel they may be truly really worth a go through, so have a look[…]

  68. adam and eve thrusting dildo - May 27, 2021

    adam and eve thrusting dildo

    […]just beneath, are numerous entirely not related websites to ours, however, they are surely worth going over[…]

  69. Google - May 23, 2021

    Google

    Sites of interest we’ve a link to.

  70. 信長の野望 育成代行 - January 6, 2014

    安全な電力平準化と金…

    私が感じる本当に ハッピーたのは遭遇 ブログとを楽しみにして多くもっと回ここに読み…

  71. work from home - October 30, 2013

    Websites you should visit…

    […]beneath you will see the link to few sites that we think you should visit[…]……

  72. tshirt printing - August 6, 2013

    Gems form the internet…

    […]very few websites that happen to be detailed below, from our point of view are undoubtedly well worth checking out[…]……

  73. seo for dental websites - July 25, 2013

    Recent Blogroll Additions……

    […]usually posts some very interesting stuff like this. If you’re new to this site[…]……

  74. abogados en línea - June 19, 2013

    Recent Blogroll Additions……

    […]usually posts some very interesting stuff like this. If you’re new to this site[…]……

  75. fashion necklace - May 19, 2013

    Recommeneded websites…

    […]Here are few of the blogs we recommend to our visitors[…]……

  76. diseño web toledo - March 10, 2013

    Title…

    […]here are some links to web-sites that we link to due to the fact we believe they may be worth visiting[…]…

  77. News - February 23, 2013

    Websites we think you should visit…

    […]although websites we backlink to below are considerably not related to ours, we feel they are actually worth a go through, so have a look[…]……

  78. gaming marketplace - February 16, 2013

    Title…

    […]the time to study or take a look at the content or web sites we’ve linked to beneath the[…]…

  79. yepi 2 - February 16, 2013

    Title…

    […]check beneath, are some totally unrelated web sites to ours, on the other hand, they may be most trustworthy sources that we use[…]…

  80. personal loans - February 15, 2013

    Related……

    […]just beneath, are numerous totally not related sites to ours, however, they are surely worth going over[…]……

  81. primal burn system - February 15, 2013

    Sources…

    […]check below, are some totally unrelated websites to ours, however, they are most trustworthy sources that we use[…]……

  82. homeowners insurance florida - February 15, 2013

    Title…

    […]usually posts some extremely intriguing stuff like this. If you are new to this site[…]…

  83. read more - February 15, 2013

    Yahoo results…

    While browsing Yahoo I found this page in the results and I didn’t think it fit…

  84. Text your ex back - February 15, 2013

    Title…

    […]very few sites that take place to become comprehensive below, from our point of view are undoubtedly nicely really worth checking out[…]…

  85. gift card exchange - February 15, 2013

    gift card exchange…

    I was very happy to seek out this internet-site.I wanted to thanks on your time for this excellent read!! I undoubtedly enjoying every little little bit of it and I have you bookmarked to take a look at new stuff you blog post….

  86. Omega - February 15, 2013

    Cool sites…

    […]we came across a cool site that you might enjoy. Take a look if you want[…]……

  87. Casinos en ligne - February 15, 2013

    Tumblr article…

    I saw a writer talking about this on Tumblr and it linked to…

  88. Clinton Talamantes - February 15, 2013

    You should check this out…

    […] Wonderful story, reckoned we could combine a few unrelated data, nevertheless really worth taking a look, whoa did one learn about Mid East has got more problerms as well […]……

  89. Work From Home Stuffing Envelopes - February 15, 2013

    Work From Home Stuffing Envelopes…

    You must participate in a contest for the most effective blogs on the web. I’ll recommend this web site!…

Leave a Reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.